Play Dates and Safety

One of the many ways that our children engage with the world is through play dates with other children. Safety begins with some simple rules:
-play with clothes on
-no touching of private parts
-no photos of private parts
-you are allowed privacy when bathing, dressing, using the toilet
-you have permission to say ‘no’
-we don’t keep secrets; if someone tells you to keep a secret tell an adult.

Here are some questions that you can ask your child to engage in a “safety conversation”*
after a play date or party:
-Did you enjoy yourself?
-How did you spend your time?
-What was your favourite part of the play date/party?
-What was the least favourite part?
-Did you feel safe?
-Was there anything else you wanted to share?

This kind of debrief enables your child to share the good things about the play date, and may help them to tell you if something unwanted did happen. 

*adapted from Body Smart: Right from the Start, by Kerri Isham (2016)